Finding your perfect match when you begin dating can be tedious and downright frustrating after you hit many walls on your pathway to meeting the perfect one for you. However, it doesn't have to be a process that seems like work. You should enjoy the journey to finding someone that you can consider spending the rest of your life with.
First, know what you are looking for in a match. Don't be willing to bend on some issues that you vehemently oppose. For example, if you cannot stand someone who smokes don't compromise on the issue just because you feel like you're never going to find someone that meets your requirements. There are millions of people out there which means you are bound to find someone who thinks the same way you do. A relationship is somewhere that you don't need to cut corners on.
Second, know what your mate should be looking for when they see you. Don't allow yourself to pretend to be someone that you aren't. You are an individual with your own goals, needs, desires, and wants in life. If you aren't going to be able to live with someone who has children for example, don't take a risk by getting involved with someone who has kids thinking that you will learn to be happy. You should treat yourself as the number one goal and the focus should always be on making yourself happy as well as making them happy too. Don't modify your appearance drastically just to appeal to someone. If you do make any changes, make them for yourself first and foremost.
Mistakes are a learning experience that you will evidently make as you begin dating. The first person that you go on a date with probably won't be the one you enter a long term relationship with and that is perfectly okay. Don't feel like you need to be serious too quickly because there is plenty of time for you to find someone who will be a match. If something goes wrong in your dating experiences, don't give up. Everything isn't going to be perfect and you are bound to hit some hurdles in the process but pick yourself back up and try again to date. It will be worth it completely once you learn from the past and apply those lessons to the future.
Learn from your past relationships. This can take some time and often the realizations you make will hurt or take some time to sink in but that is perfectly acceptable. If you discover what you did wrong to make your previous relationships fail you can keep these in mind with future partners and avoid doing them again. It's not all on your shoulders though. Take note of what they did to cause the relationship to fall apart and know what some warning signs are so that you don't experience these faults in another relationship. History does not have to repeat itself in your relationship path as long as you don't let it.
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